Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child guides adoptive parents in promoting a child's emotional and social adjustment, from the family's first hours together through the teen years. It explains how to help an adopted child cope with the ''Big Change,'' bond with new parents, become part of a family, and develop a positive self-image that incorporates both American identity and ethnicity origins. Parents waiting to meet their adoptive children will appreciate Cogen's advice about preparing for the trip and handling the first meeting. The author's main focus, though, is the child's adaptation over the next months and years. Cogen explains how to deal with the child's ''mixed maturities''; how (and why) to tell the child's story from the child's point of view; how to handle sleep problems and resistance to household rules; and how to encourage eye contact and ease transitions and separations. The reassuring narrative tone and the breadth and depth of information make this the most substantive and accessible book available and an indispensable resource for parents who adopt, professionals who advise adoptive parents, and teachers of adoptive children
"Birthdays may be difficult for me." "I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family." "When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me." "I am afraid you will abandon me." The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame. With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he ...
Required reading for adoptive families, those considering adoption, or professionals in the field. This practical, informative book covers topics of vital importance to adoptive parents with sensitivity and insight. The authors bring years of experience to the complex emotional issues that parents will negotiate, and expert advice on establishing a healthy, loving parent-child relationship.
This story for adopted and foster children describes the adventures of Zachary the kitten, who is taken from his mother's house when his mot her is unable to take care of him. The book follows Zachary as he firs t goes into foster care and then is adopted by a family of geese. Zach ary experiences the expected and true-to-life feelings of shame, anger , rebelliousness, and hurt, and his adoptive parents struggle with the ir own feelings during Zachary's tougher times, until Zachary finally finds a place he can call home. The poignant story is brought to life by Margo Lemieux's detailed, evocative drawings.
Introduce your child to the world of adoption through this beautifully written and illustrated children's book. You will learn that adoption is one of many characteristics that make each child unique. This book will also lead you through the journey of a birth mother who prayerfully chooses adoption for her child and searches for a loving adoptive couple. "Some Babies Are Adopted" is the perfect book for those who want to teach their child, whether adopted or not, that adoption is a choice based on love.
MYSTERY AND THE ADOPTED CHILD All children are a mystery to their parents to some extent. Yet adoptive parents face many more questions than birth parents about a child's past and heredity. This book of articles written over 24 years discusses people adopted from around the world and their sometimes surprising behavior. So why did an infant need to bang his head repeatedly to get to sleep? See the article on sleep for the reason. What food-related problem resulted in a four-year-old with a sensational throwing arm? See the food article for the answer. Why did a boy insist on a belt and undergarments so tight that they left welts on his body? See the article on touching. In articles on romanc...
This concise book shows a new family-friendly way to compile a Life Story Book that promotes a sense of permanency for the child, and encourages attachments within the adoptive family. Joy Rees' improved model works chronologically backwards rather than forwards, aiming to reinforce the child's sense of security within the adoptive family.
Meet Lucie - she is a rambunctious, inquisitive, seven-year-old girl who was adopted! Lucie has lots of questions about everything. When Lucie's pregnant Aunt Grace and Uncle John come to visit, new curiosities bubble into Lucie's mind. What does the baby do in there? Does he eat? That night Lucie has an amazing dream, that her birth parents are a king and queen who live in a castle. She knows she grew in her birth mother's tummy, but if her birth parents lived in a castle, why didn't they keep her? The next day, Dad helps her to make an amazing discovery - he tells her how to find a special connection with her birth parents, and how you can too! Forever Fingerprints is a heartwarming, fun story written for children aged 5-11 which uses an everyday experience to embark upon a gentle exploration of some of the difficult questions and feelings commonly expressed by children who are adopted. Adoption expert Sherrie Eldridge also provides a valuable 'Parent Tools and Activities' section, with ideas for creative activities and suggestions on how to explore issues such as belonging, identity, self-esteem and connection.